SHOULD I MAKE A COMBACK?!! JENN WITHOUT MEN 2011??? what do you think?

Doug has re-entered my life……….pulling the same stuff he’s always been pulling.  YIKES. 

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- if anyone thinks of anything better let me know. 

- this blog is basically all that has been here this time with men, more observations on life, love, and everything else you can think of. 

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Love yous!

So here we are, our last day as woman without men.

Today, unfortunately was not too interesting in terms of males, but then it seems that while the males were great entertainment for this blog, it was more about me. Time for a sentimental reflection (hold your tears please): I feel as though, while at times I hated it, this experience was once in a lifetime and happened at the best time. I learned a lot about myself and how I interact with guys. I also learned that the more confident I am and the more I love myself the easier it is to talk to them. But let’s be honest, no one cares about the lessons I learned, merely about the boys.

Let’s recap them shall we? Some boys who were here in the beginning and no longer even on my radar. So weird right?

Drew - so over him I can’t believe I was ever into him

Peter - ummm…

Cory - slightly embarrassed by that one

Stephen - still have never run into him on a Thursday going to class, but he still makes me smile

Ray - what a fun guy huh? Default bff.

Leo - jury’s still out on that one

I’m probably missing some, but if I can’t think of them then that means they aren’t even important…oh wait:

Doug - I haven’t spoken to Doug in weeks. Honestly, I miss him as a friend but I know that this is for the best. Its easier not to talk to him, its too hard to try and stay on the friends side of the line when he pushes the boundary to forbidden territory. Sigh. Who knows what the future holds with Doug.

Well, I think that about sums up Jenn Without Men. I laughed, I cried, I broke it, but through it all, I had fun. And I hope you did too. Stay tuned for my new blog starting monday! All this, plus men!! Love you all! I’m going to find me someone to kiss!

Love, Love, Love,

Jenn Without Men

Double Fisting means talking to two guys at once. I was “handling” two at once. Nothing sexual. Thanks you.

Day 43: 

Dear hot preppy boy walking near ankora on comm ave, I want to DATE/MARRY you!

He was basically the highlight of my day….him and the other preppy cuties I saw on Comm Ave.  I love spring, it’s the time when the cute preppy guys emerge from hibernation.  WIN! 

Other than spottings, nothing really interesting happened. 

Day 44: 

Just because boys may go to the best school in the country, it does not make them any less male….and any less douchy.  Guys will be guys no matter what school they have plastered on their tee-shirts.  

And that’s just a bitch, ain’t it? 

I mean last night I went to a mixer at one of the best, if not the best, universities in the world and I was doing my thing.  Literally double fisting two guys at one point.  I mean I literally talked to them for a hour and then only one of them for longer.  I thought it was going so well.  It seemed like we really hit it off and then the blog was brought up….

And here’s the thing, I wasn’t hiding the blog but I mean it’s over on Sunday and it just wasn’t relevant to the conversation.  So I don’t know if that’s why he stopped talking to me for the rest of the night or what but if that’s really the reason, if this guy who I thought was super cool and really nice stopped talking to me because I wasn’t hooking up with him that night then that’s ridiculous.  A) easter is over on Sunday and B) shouldn’t guys respect a classy girl?  

Honestly, maybe they don’t care.  Maybe they’re just thinking with their penis and don’t care what comes out of her mouth, but rather what goes in.  It sucks but then when guys start acting douchy and blowing off girls who are respectable and classy, down the line when they’re looking for a girl to bring home to mommy, they’re going to be left with the ones who eat popsicles like they’re porn stars.  So good luck boys.  I’m not saying hooking up is bad, I love kissing, I LOVE IT, but i’m just saying a girl is more than a sexual object and should be acknowledged and treated as such.  That’s not too much to ask. 

Guys should want a girl whose respectable and who can hold a conversation for more than a minute.  But I guess all they care about are boobs and what they can do with them…

Stupid.  

And if the blog was not the reason he stopped chatting with me…then I honestly have NO IDEA about anything anymore.  I have no idea what I did wrong then.  BAH.

Overall grade: C. 

Only one more day,

Jenn 

And I’m back.  Sorry for the quick hiatus, I’ve been sooo super incredibly busy you have no idea.  I have a ton of work and I’m in a student film so I’ve been out shooting into the wee hours of the night.  But have no fear, I have found time to blog for all of my faithful followers. 

Day 41:

Day 41 was a long, long day.  I went to classes - nothing too spectacular/no-one too spectacular.  

I then went to film for a little soap opera called Bay State which is incredible and you all should watch it faithfully.  I’m on it and no I’m not biased, I do think it is awesome for a student run college produced show.  You can watch episodes here: www.butv10.com/baystate. And no, I am not above shameless self-promotion.  I’m going to be such a stage mom it’s insane.  

SO anyway on my way to filming I saw the cutest guy ever walking on Comm ave.  One day I just want to be able to go up to someone and say: “hi, i think you’re remarkably good looking.  have a nice life!”  and then be done with it.  I wonder…

I finished filming and bonding with my spectacular co-stars/crew which includes: enrique and miller……and leo…..and fabulous other folk.  Then I headed over to film for the student production I am in.  

It’s such a cool experience being behind the scenes of a movie/tv show.  It really is.   I would LOVE to do that for a living. haha.  Anyway, that was really the day - nothing too too exciting happened.  

Day 42: 

Again, not a spectacular day, spent it doing work, going to class, and filming.  Although I did run into someone who I had not seen in a while. And yes, he is male.  

So when I first got to school in August I did a community service program called FYSOP.  And in my group there was this one guy who we will call Mike.  Mike, like all the rest of us was kind of quiet in the beginning but as the week went on we loosened up.  Poor guy, one of 2 in a group of all girls…and all we did was talk about the hotties we saw.  That and impersonate Sarah Palin.  Anyway, I joked with him in during the program, and was obnoxious and flirted with him - all in a plot to make him uncomfortable because it was funny.  

After the program ended I would see him around campus and what not, nothing really coming of it.  But then, one Thursday night I got a text asking if I was down to hang out and “other stuff.”  No Mike, I was not down to make out with you/sleep with you.  So I obvi said no.  Then a couple months later I ran into him at a party and we flirted and whatever, I was horny/drunk wanted to make out.  But in the end we didn’t. Then this semester I got a text from him randomly asking to hang out / hook up again.  NO MIKE, JUST NO! 

So in any event, I ran into Mike late that night and of course he ignored me.  I mean really, seriously?  He knew who I was.  Don’t you hate that, when you know someone knows you and you know them but they ignore you?  Rude, just rude.  

Besides that, not much happened.  

However, I do have a mixer coming up tomorrow night and God watch over me it’s my last giant party before Sunday and this whole ordeal is done.  Can I do it?  Can I resist temptation this time?  We shall see…

Over and out,

Jenn

Yesterday’s blog was horribly depressing.  After thinking about it I would like to clarify: no man/boy in college would ever do something so corny as dressing up like a knight…however, I do believe that when the right guy comes along he wouldn’t think twice about dressing up like a knight…even for role play.  

What I’m saying is that, I generalized a lot yesterday.  Most boys - in my experience- don’t change/grow/have a heart, but a lot do.  And it is up to us to find them.  I think that there are way more nice girls out there right now in college than there are nice boys.  And by nice boys, I mean boys who want more than a stick it and go relationship.  Boys who actually want to be with a girl in more ways than just physical stuff. Sometimes it seems that boys don’t want anything that involves talking with a girl…they only talk so they can shut her up with their lips…

On another note this CILS issue is really a problem.  I.e. Nate Archibald.  Seriously the perfect man exists on television.  It’s a shame.  really.  

I’ve had an epiphany today.  And it came whilst looking at my shoe collection…well the shoes that I have at school.  I have impeccable taste in shoes.  That’s not me being cocky, it’s just a fact…I have very good taste in shoes.  Then I realized, why has God only granted me with impeccable taste in shoes?  Why have I been skipped when it comes to impeccable taste in guys?  I do not know…but I have discovered a way to develop my taste in men.  A guide to guys via shoes if you will.  If I start thinking of guys in terms of shoes, then maybe…just maybe my luck with men will turn around and I will finally find the good guys.  So here it is…A Girls Guide to Guys: Via Shoes

First you have your Stilettos and Sexy Going Out Shoes: 

• these are the shoes that girls love to wear out, they look good and you feel sexy when wearing them. 
• But these shoes are the equivalent to the male slut.  The whore.  These shoes are the guys who like to hit it and quit it.  They are good for one night but you don’t want to be seen wearing them in the morning.  
• These guys are fun on the weekends and will never be a permanent staple during the weekday.  In the end they hurt your feet, and these boys could end up hurting your feelings or reputation.  These are the boys that when you hook up with them you then become “the girl who hooked up with so&so…”
• Avoid these guy on a regular basis.  Okay once in a while for a little tet-a-tet but nothing more than a fun one night.  They aren’t long term and you shouldn’t try to make them long term. 

Second we have our Seasonal and Weather Shoes:

• these shoes include (but are not limited too) rain boots, winter boots, snow boots, etc.
• These shoes relate to those guys that are merely summer flings, spring break hook ups, and winter break trips down memory lane.  These boys are reliable when you need them, but you don’t want to make them a permanent staple in your life.  They are there to fulfill your needs, but you don’t drag out the relationship any longer than you need too.
• These guys are fun when it’s appropriate to have fun with them.  After all, you wouldn’t wear your rain boots in 85 degrees and sun would you?  

Thirdly we have our Comfy Shoes: 

• These shoes include (but are not limited too) sandals, slippers, uggs, flip flops, sneakers, etc. 
• These shoes are always comfortable, always reliable, and never let you down.  You can always count on them.  But soon they become your lazy shoe.  You don’t wake up in the morning excited to wear them.  You don’t match them to cute outfits in your head and wonder if they’ll impress on your date.  
• These shoes are great in the beginning, but soon turn into a habit…more like a best friend.  These shoes, while always reliable, don’t spark your interest after a certain point.  You become comfortable with these shoes and they stop surprising you after a while.  There’s nothing wrong with routine, but sometimes a relationship needs spice.  These comfy shoes know you very well, but they don’t light your fire at night.  They are better kept in the best friend range. 
• Just because you don’t want to take them out all the time doesn’t mean you love them any less…they quite frankly have a huge place in your heart.  The shoes whose shoulders you cry on when your stilettos twist your ankle/break your heart.

Fourthly we have our On Sale Shoes: (credit to Kelsey for this one) 

• These shoes are just what you think.  Those awesome brand shoes you find on sale at TJ Maxx, and you are so excited at first to have found them and to wear them out and to introduce them to everyone.
• But you quickly learn that these shoes were discounted for a reason: they’re uncomfortable and give you blisters.  They haunt your closet and you because you shelf them after a quick run.  They aren’t good for you, and are the trickiest shoe.  The most deceiving shoe.  They come off as a good guy, but the more you get to know them, the more you realize they are not who they pretend to be and they need to be 86ed and fast.
• Just because something is cheap, doesn’t mean it’s good.  

Lastly we have our Workday and Cute Shoes: 

• These shoes include (but are not limited too) flats, wedges, appropriate heels, cute boots, espadrilles, gladiator sandals, sperrys, etc. 
• These shoes are reliable.  They always make you feel good and you can count on them.  These shoes always surprise you - whether it be matching an unexpected outfit, making you feel better about yourself, always appropriate for any occasion, etc. 
• These are the shoes your father would approve of you wearing on a date, and these are the boys you would bring home to meet your parents.  
• These shoes are fabulous.  You love to wear them, and you can’t wait for when you get to wear them.  They always bring a smile to your face and your favorite shoe tends to be in this category.  
• These shoes are equivalent to the good guys.  The ones that are appropriate, nice, loving, but also surprise you in a good way.  
• You should be looking for a guy that reminds you of your favorite pair of cute shoes.  Because they always win in the end, and these guys are always winners.  

So there it is.  My Girl’s Guide to Men: Via Shoes.  I think it’s rather brilliant, if I do say so myself.  From now on, I’m looking for a guy that is equal to my favorite pair of cute shoes.  Because those shoes never let me down.  

Besides ALL that…no real male interaction today - told you, I have TONS of work.  Overall grade: A. 

Almost there,

Jenn

So do you agree with my girls guide to men? 

Sometimes I wonder if I am kidding myself with this blog.  I mean, in reality I have discovered things about myself in terms of how I interact with boys and etc.  But boys have not changed, will not change, and I don’t expect them too.  

I mean I can grow up and learn and change all I want but in the end it isn’t me.  I could change a million ways but the boys would stay the same.  Maybe it’s just the guys I’ve been interacting with that aren’t good for me, aren’t the people I should be interacting with.  But I honestly have no idea.  

I don’t know what brought this on.  Perhaps it was Grey’s Anatomy, or perhaps it was a sudden epiphany that I’ve been living in this dream world.  April 4th (Easter) is just going to be a typical holiday.  There isn’t going to be a knight on his white horse standing outside my dorm at midnight waiting for me.  I think that’s been my problem.  Maybe in the back of my head I had that idea.  That April 4th was going to change everything and I’d finally find a guy who deserved me and vice versa.  But, of course this is not wonderland, it’s reality and in reality no guy in his right mind would dress up like a night, rent a white horse, and wait outside a dorm room.  Things like that just don’t happen, and I am silly for even thinking anything remotely close to that would happen.  

I didn’t really have guy interaction today.  Slow day, mostly kept to myself and did work.  I have so much work and it is stressing me out.  And all I want to do is watch Grey’s Anatomy and read The Last Song.  Ugh.  Overall grade: A.  

But really, like Taylor Swift said:  I’m not a princess, and this ain’t a fairytale. 

It’s time to wake up from my dream world. 

- Jenn 

“I’m scared as hell to want you but here I am wanting you anyway, and fear means I have something to lose, right? And I don’t want to lose you.” - Meredith Grey 

Let’s be honest, Grey’s Anatomy has some of the BEST quotes and writing on television.  You may disagree but I love it.  I just wanted to post that quote because it’s magnificent and at some point with someone in your life I’m sure that quote has been relevant.  

Saturday was not too exciting on the male front.  I mean literally, aside from the cuties walking down the street or in the dining hall, not too much happened.  I mostly spent the day with my friends getting sushi, being lazy, going tanning (which now i’m burned. ugh) and watching grey’s anatomy.  A lazy day but we all need those once in a while.  And besides that, it was a guy-drama free day.  And it was glorious.  

Oh, wait, I did see Ray for a split second.  He’s fun. He raps. I can’t take him seriously.  But besides that, no real guy interaction.  Lovely.  

It’s funny sometimes I want guy interaction and other times I want nothing to do with them.  Oh well, not too much of an exciting weekend, and I’m not sure how this week will play out but only one week left! HOORAY! I cannot wait.  I’m so utterly excited you have no idea…I mean you really have no idea.

Word to the wise: DO NOT give up men for lent.  Just don’t do it.  hahaha

Overall grade: A. 

A’s have never been so boring in my entire life.  

Bahye, 

Jenn 

There are fictional characters that exist, cartoon and real, that I like to call CILSs.  Characters I’d Like To Screw. Don’t lie, you all have them too.  One such CILS is none other than Mark Sloan.  Not only would I like to screw him, I would want to do it over and over and over again and then marry him so he’d legally be bound to me for all eternity.  For those of you who obviously have been living under a rock, Mark Sloan is a character from Grey’s Anatomy, otherwise known as McSteamy.  Simply irresistible.  

YesterDAY was spent laying in bed with my best friend in the entire world watching Grey’s Anatomy and eating Honey Teddy Grahams.  It was glorious.  Escaping from the drama of our world and into the drama of another world. 

That night I headed out to a philanthropy dance to support one of my friends in the sorority and I had a fun time although, I put 6, yes 6 raffle tickets into the Sex and the City full series pack raffle and STILL did not win.  So mad about that, but it was overall pretty fun.  A good amount of guys but no one who really stuck my fancy, plus I wasn’t in a guy mood last night.  I just wanted to dance but the DJs just played non-danceable techno.  When will people learn to play some good old fashioned Cher or Whitney?  I mean honestly.  

However at the dance I met a Harvard boy who invited us back to an after party, so me along with one of my friends met up with my two of my best friends and we headed to Harvard.  Let me just say this: Harvard is gorgeous.  Literally, stunning.  I felt smarter just being there.  Now I understand Rory Gilmore’s infatuation with it for 16 years of her life.  I get it.  

We headed to the after party and their dorm rooms are insane.  Like so nice, and it was chill, we met a couple more people.  I met one guy who was totally cute named Alex (real name) and I wanted to seriously get to know him because he had potential to be my new Harvard boyfriend but he left randomly and I will probably never see him again.  Overall the Harvard night wasn’t a bust, but a new experience.  It’s true that some Harvard boys are kind of nerdy/socially awkward but some are fun.  And the guys we hung out with last night were fun.  I had a nice time.

Oh and just as a side note.  Someone told me last night that he thought this blog was inane and irrelevant.  And I would just like to say to JON:  ”don’t be hatin.”  

Don’t knock it till ya try it Jon.  Boys just don’t understand how girls minds work.  Technically we are 4 years ahead of boys on a maturity scale, no wonder he doesn’t understand.  You cut me deep Jon.  You cut me real deep.  

That’s all for now! Overall grade: B-

Peace, Love, and Mark Sloan,

Jenn 

Besides having gorgeous weather today, the streets were full of gorgeous men.

Sometimes I think, like bears, the gorgeous men go into hibernation for the winters and appear with the sun.  At least on the East Coast.  I mean, in all honesty, it’s like the weather begins to get nice and my eyes suddenly are throbbing from all the beauty it sees.  

For example, today outside the FitRec I spotted the MOST beautiful guy I’ve ever seen.  Mind you, everyone has different tastes.  But he’s literally how I picture guys in my dreams.  Not to be a dork or anything.  But he was tall, good complexion, dark hair, blue eyes, and when he looked at me my heart stopped.  He was also stretching / working out.  Another plus.  So this is another plea that if anyone knows who the beautiful boy standing outside fitrec in a blue fysop shirt at about 6:15 tonight was…let me know.  It was meant to be.  Let’s call him Tyler.  

As if Tyler wasn’t enough, I hoped on the BUS tonight to head back to my room because I was too exhausted to walk and low and behold another gorgeous face was staring at me as I walked/ran onto the bus.  Tall (I could tell even though he was sitting down), dark hair, dark eyes, not too tan complexion, dressed casually.  Simply delicious.  Today was heaven.  

I mean what are the odds right?  Aside from those two beautiful gifts from God, I had rehearsal for a student film I’m in AND I had lunch with a friend who is fabulous, her name is Emily, and she’s the next president of the United States and that makes me infinitely happy because we have the same political affiliation.  She’s superb and an overachiever and I know she reads this so this is me telling her not to overcomplicate her schedule, because she can do all that she wants but she needs to manage it.  I hope you’re laughing Em, because this is meant to be funny. LOVE YOU! And I do think you’d be a kick ass president.

Aside from ALL of that, not much else had happened.  Went with the flow, my day was easily superb because of Tyler and BUS boy.  Tomorrow is friday, which means anything can happen. Dun dun dun! Overall grade: B+. 

Huzzah,

Jenn 

I just now realized this will be longer than 40 days because I have not been discounting Sundays.  My lent is 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, minus that one indiscretion. 

Before I begin i’m supposed to give a shout out to a guy who stumpled upon my blog via the website stumpledupon.  His name is Jason or Justin…idk something along those lines, but I was being nagged to mention him. So I am.  

Today during my lecture this cute guy went to go sit a couple seats over from me in my row, but then he saw that his friend was sitting right in front of me and sat there instead.  Too bad, because he was super cute and I would not have minded doing one of those fake arm stretches that we all do and then turn my head to the left as I stretch so I can glimpse him without being obvious.  And do not lie, we ALL do the stretch.  Sometimes it’s a back crack, or what have you, but we all do it.  And it always works.  

So cute boy from lecture today, you were wearing a white shirt with a black red sox hat (even though liking the red sox makes you less attractive to me) and megan fox is the background on your computer (i can look past that. If you think it’s you, and you are reading this now, just know…I always sit in that spot at lecture, I am single, and you were cute.  We should go on a date.  

Hey, a girl’s gotta do what she can. ;) 

Later in the day I was sitting in the GSU and I saw some cuties, but no one that really stood out to me. Other than that, pretty slow day but it seems this weekend shall be shaping up.  

I really have been thinking about, once lent is over, to making a new blog called: Jenn With Men, this time we can all follow me and my adventures with guys in the mix.  Ten times more the drama than when they’re not in my life. If guys are making me nuts when I CAN’T have them…imagine what will happen when I can.

Okie dokie. Overall grade: A 

Hasta Manana,

Jenn

And let me know what you think.  Should I continue the blogging?

Today started rather slow…I mean let’s be honest, not everyday can be as exciting as this past weekend was.  Right? 

Dreary days like this make me want a boyfriend even more…why you may ask? Simple: so that I can have someone to snuggle with in my bed while we watch movies.  Well, actually I guess that’s what best friends are for.  

That brings up a good point.  Really, wouldn’t we all want to marry our best friends?  I mean technically our friends could be our soul mates, sans penis.  So I want to find the male equivalent of my best friend, so that he’s all that plus a penis.  We should all just go out and instead of looking for “men” look for a new friend.  The best relationships start as friendships…or so I’ve heard.  

So tonight my fabulous sorority had its philanthropy event called Ivy Man, basically it’s a male pageant.  It was so much fun, and some of those guys were not bad to look at either, let me tell you.  

The most fabulous ones of course were the gays, who in my opinion deserved first, second, and third place but hey, we can’t always get what we want.  And even the boys who showed up to watch the event were very nice eye candy.  Quite the distraction for me - especially with all that’s been on my mind lately.  

Oddly enough I find that I keep looking at more and more blondes, and I NEVER go for blondes.  Odd, but maybe it’s time to get out of my old habits and go to a never been before place.  

Less than two weeks and I’m home free. This has single - handedly been one of the hardest things EVER.  But I guess still fun.  Overall grade: A-.

I cannot wait for the rain to stop, and the weekend to start. ;) 

<3 

Jenn 

What you need, what you deserve is a guy who adores you for what you are. Who doesn’t see you as a project but a prize. - The Truth About Forever 

So tonight, once again, I was browsing the dating websites of the world.  And let me tell you, there are some outrageous ones: jdate, wealthymen, christiansingles, sugardaddies, interacialsingles, adultfriendfinder…you get the picture.  And some of them seem relevant, like the religious ones, but others like wealthymen and sugardaddies seem ridiculous.  I mean, the moment you sign on those websites you realize the superficiality of them.  How can you base a relationship of off superficiality?  How can you expect to find your soul mate on a superficial dating site?  Who knows…maybe some people don’t have those expectations but to me it just seems wrong.  

I mean, you should want someone who, just as the quote above says, treats you like a prize, not a project.  Yes, having money is nice, but so what?  A sugardaddie will treat you like his project and not like someone who deserves to be loved, adored, and treated like the fantastic person that you are.  Screw those superficial websites and matchmaking services like millionaire matchmaker.  You want real love?  Well real love doesn’t start with a dollar sign in front of it.  

Maybe I’m being naive, but maybe not.  Sometimes love is enough.  

In other news.  Today was a slow day. HOORAY! Just what I wanted…I’m slowly getting back into the swing of things, and my schedules has me up to my neck in stress, but hey, that’s what it’s like to be in college. 

Doug, I’ve come to accept, it really out of the picture, and I’ve noticed myself being a lot less stressed and a lot happier without him there.  

Two of my best friends in the ENTIRE world are coming up to see me after lent is over and we are planning to hit the town and go nuts.  I mean look, I know what I deserve, and it’s more than a jump on jump off, hit it and quit it, get in get off get out, type of deal. I know this. Everyone deserves more than that.  But there is nothing wrong with being single, owning it, and being confident.  Maybe that’s the trick…maybe it’s all about being confident.  Look at Samantha Jones, she is confident and acts like the most beautiful girl in the room - chicks got style.  And that’s what we all need…we all need to embrace our inner Samantha Jones.  And that’s what I plan to do.

The right guy will come along when he comes along.  I’m not going to look for him, it’ll happen when it happens.  The best I can do it be confident and be myself.  That’s all any of us can really do.

Overall grade for the day: A-.  Still a little wound up but i’m getting back into the swing of things.  This is shaping up to be one of the greatest adventures ever.  

Stay Classy San Diego, 

Jenn 

p.s. i’m so utterly excited to see last song, i’m probably going to buy all the tissues from star market. cannot wait…oh and liam hemsworth - i just love to look at him.